Angry interactions with loved ones can be some of the most painful but can also present us with some of the best opportunities for healing, because it’s when we’re in what psychologist Aaron Beck called “hot cognitions” that our oldest wounds become visible. If we think about how much of our dysfunctional behavior in adult relationships stems from

Someone who is very angry also has a lot of energy; that energy is what’s so juicy about him or her. That’s the reason people love that person. The idea isn’t to try to get rid of your anger, but to make friends with it, to see it clearly with precision and honesty, and also to see it with gentleness. That means not judging yourself as a bad

A third misconception in our list has to do with our failure to see the relationship not only between anger and our unregenerate selves, but between anger and our integrity.