You want to inflict pain, or you want to suffer pain, or both.

can only survive if it gets you to unconsciously identify

This can take the form of irritation, impatience, a somber mood, a desire to hurt, anger, rage, depression, a need to have some drama in your relationship, and so on. Catch it the moment it awakens from its dormant state.

Accept — then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life.

Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life.

The intensity of the pain depends on the degree of resistance to the present moment,

love may be pleasurable and exciting for a while, but it is an addictive clinging, an extremely needy condition that can turn into its opposite at the flick of a switch. Many

“pain.” One of the main tasks of the mind is to fight or remove that emotional pain, which is one of the reasons for its incessant activity, but all it can ever achieve is to cover it up temporarily.

All true artists, whether they know it or not, create from a place of no-mind, from inner stillness.