If a person seems to have a good grasp of a book or other artistic or aesthetic object, by all means be willing to let the conversation flow in that direction, because you will end up staring right into that person’s soul.
If a person seems to have a good grasp of a book or other artistic or aesthetic object, by all means be willing to let the conversation flow in that direction, because you will end up staring right into that person’s soul.
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Christian makes a brilliant comparison between most polite conversation—small talk—and the “book,” arguing that true human interaction doesn’t start happening until one or both of the participants diverge from their scripts of culturally defined pleasantries. The book is necessary in some ways, as it is in chess (Bobby Fischer would disagree), in o
... See moreIf you see tremendous beauty or tremendous pain where other people see little or nothing at all, you’re confronted with big feelings all the time.
the ability to see someone else deeply and make them feel seen—to
When you’re first getting to know someone, you don’t want to try to peer into their souls right away. It’s best to look at something together.