I'm Throwing Shade...

Second, most fathers lack a directional process that calls their sons to embrace the manhood they should be able to define.

On that note, let's stop asking boys, "What do you want to do?" Let's start asking them, "Who do you want to be?"

Boys will instinctively tether themselves to their performance as students and athletes. They will feel the pull as adults to anchor their identity to vocation. Asking boys, "What do you want to do?" or men,

Mentorship in men is often a kind of transmission born of physical proximity; the teaching is not spoken but absorbed. For thousands of years, men danced and walked and moved together, taught each other the ways of nature.