Raising Emotionally Strong Boys
On that note, let's stop asking boys, "What do you want to do?" Let's start asking them, "Who do you want to be?"
Boys will instinctively tether themselves to their performance as students and athletes. They will feel the pull as adults to anchor their identity to vocation. Asking boys, "What do you want to do?" or men,
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The River and the Ripple
There's a famous saying that "there comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they're falling in." This book is all about heading upstream to find out where boys are falling in. I hope to interrupt a boy's current way of being in the world in a
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Consider using some part of your training time to watch movies like My All American; Radio; The Blind Side; When the Game Stands Tall; Remember the Titans; Invincible; Facing the Giants; We Are Marshall; Rudy; Glory Road; Hoosiers; Hurricane Season; Coach Carter; Invictus; Bend It Like Beckham; Miracle; Eddie the Eagle; The Miracle Season; Soul Sur
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I'd encourage you to watch the footage with your kids and allow the visual to set the stage for some great conversation. Talk about
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Who are your "pacesetters"-the friends who stay with you in the hard moments and celebrate with you in the victories?
Who are you a pacesetter for in friendship? Which friends are yo
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It seems important to acknowledge how contradictory this way of being in the world is to the common phrase "Man up!" I think about how often males speak and hear those words. If you really think about it, the message there is to stop feeling, start doing, and take care of things on your own. The message burdens males with a need to carry
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The Bible specifically tells us a few times to "stand firm", "act like men" and similar instructions. While dependency on God is the source of this strength, it does seem that "man up" is an intended directive from scripture. I don't know that those directives conflict with the author's intent, but it seems there may be a "both and" here. Yes, we have a broken definition of masculinity in the world, but also, we need man up in a lot of areas.
Though Scripture is incredibly clear in God asking us to come to him when we are weary and burdened, helpless and in need, we struggle with doing so as males. The invitation is clear, but the practice is difficult. Until we learn to pray with honesty, speak with honesty, and act with honesty, we will continue to rely on our own strength. Relying on
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INTENTIONAL PRACTICES
Journal prompts. A favorite memory. A time I felt afraid. A hope for the future. If I could have any superpower. My favorite thing about summer. Three interesting facts about me. A character from a book or movie I'd like to meet and why.
Strengths assessment. Draw a line down the center of a piece of paper. List strengths on one
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As God's image bearers, part of laying a healthy foundation is accurately defining masculinity by looking through the lens of Jesus as a man. His strength was defined by sacrifice, humility, compassion, and love. He had close relationships with a small group of men. He was a champion of women. Scripture tells us Jesus wept in an encounter of loss,
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The second emotional milestone is perspective. This milestone is learning to accurately categorize the events of life. Learning that a one in life is losing my car keys and a ten is losing a family member. I don't want to go to ten over losing a scrimmage, though many boys can and do.
The milestone of perspective is like the pain scale doctors use.
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