Resignation in your inner dialogue sounds like, “Oh well, I guess I'm just screwed up and this is proof!” Instead, that voice could sound like, “I am starting to engage in my adorable codependent behaviors—I can stop now!”

and don’t have to take them on… I can be a sounding board for her and gently and firmly follow through and guide her where she needs to go. With this change in perception, I no longer

We then moved on to Step 2, Reclaim Your Power and Your Life, to help Dianna stop obsessively ruminating on everything offensive that Brian had done by turning her attention instead toward herself, to discover what role she may have played in what happened between them.