Are You a Jerk, or a Liar?
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Are You a Jerk, or a Liar?
“I can’t tell whether this is so obvious it doesn’t merit mentioning, or so fundamental it’s hard to see.”
Cate Hall
https://usefulfictions.substack.com/p/are-you-a-jerk-or-a-liar
Lauren Crichton added
Asking vs guessing in relation to the workplace. Pretty sure this connects to stuff Haley Nahman has written but just thought of it when reading Cate Hall
https://usefulfictions.substack.com/p/are-you-a-jerk-or-a-liar
Lauren Crichton added
Rigid stories about others often come up in interpersonal conflict. When we get stuck in judgments that another person is "irrational" or "misinformed," we lose touch with who they are as whole, complex human beings.
every.to • How to Do Hard Things
Lillian Sheng added
What’s worse: Offending someone or lying to someone? Saying something stupid when it’s your turn, or not saying anything? Tell me which, and I’ll tell you your problem.
Sarah Manguso • 300 Arguments
sari added
v good quesrions
Stuart Evans and added
One kind of life-alienating communication is the use of moralistic judgments that imply wrongness or badness on the part of people who don’t act in harmony with our values.
Marshall B. Rosenberg • Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides)
As a rule of thumb, whenever communication is discreet—subtle, cryptic, or ambiguous—it’s a fair bet that the speaker is trying to get away with something by preventing the message from becoming common knowledge.
Robin Hanson • The Elephant in the Brain: Hidden Motives in Everyday Life
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Andrew McCluskey and added