Lauren Wilde
@wilde
Lauren Wilde
Postpartum Following Perinatal Loss
- Within the next couple of decades, a new generation of contraceptives could hit the American market. One, a pill that blocks certain cells from accessing vitamin A, might be able to limit fertility without flooding the body with hormones; another is an injection that temporarily blocks up the reproductive plumbing. The method that’s furthest along ... See more
- Birth trauma is a subjective experience. It is an autonomic response of the nervous system, similar to an alarm being tripped in the brain, often set off by a perceived threat to safety. It is not a choice. Birth traumas vary greatly in their cause and presentation. My story is only one example.
Your birth experience did not need to have been life-t... See more 
Mother’s Day is tomorrow, and many of us are going to receive gifts of outings, nights out, or traditional “self-care” methods. And these can be great, welcome gifts. But they can also add to an already full plate and fail to leave us rested. We’re often told we just need to rest or practice “self-care” when we express feeling overwhelmed in motherhood. But self-care can sometimes feel like one more thing to do. The invisible load of prioritizing self-care involves: 〰 Learning to say no 〰 Finding the time 〰 Seeking support from family and friends 〰 Trusting others while you’re away 〰 Learning to set and hold boundaries 〰 Having the resources 〰 Letting go of the belief that a good mom is selfless 〰 Being willing to accept help or support 〰 Learning how to manage the guilt 〰 Challenging the belief that your needs aren’t important 〰 Rediscovering things you enjoy 〰 Following through even though there are a million reasons not to It’s easy to feel like it isn’t even worth it. But I want you to know that YOU are worth it. We can take the time to think about our own needs, work on setting boundaries, and give ourselves permission to prioritize our own time. When we value our own time and tune into our own needs, we can shed guilt, let go of expectations, and start practicing real self-care. Working with a mom therapist can help us change the way we view our own time, let go of “good mom” expectations, and find our own path in motherhood. We offer virtual therapy support for moms across Canada and the United States, serving you at every step of your journey. Our mom therapists understand what you’re going through. They can help with: 〰 Recognizing your own needs 〰 Advocating for your needs 〰 Prioritizing your time 〰 Rediscovering yourself in motherhood 〰 And more! Find out if we serve your area and book a FREE 15 minute virtual consultation. Comment MWTHERAPY below to receive a DM with more information or head to momwell.com/booking . . . . . #happymothersday #mothersdaygifts #momsmatter #candidmotherhood #realmoms #mentalloadofmotherhood #invisibleload #invisibleloadofmotherhood
- “Researchers from the UK’s Mindlab International measured subconscious brain activity in sleeping men and women and found that while a baby’s crying was the number one nighttime sound most likely to wake up a woman, it didn’t even figure into the male top ten—lagging behind car alarms. And strong wind.”
— How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by J... See more But the issue of children and who looks after them has become, in my view, profoundly political, and so it would be a contradiction to write a book about motherhood without explaining to some degree how I found the time to write it. For the first six months of Albertine’s life I looked after her at home while my partner continued to work. This exp
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Too often women on career pause feel counted out of the conversation about the balancing act. Take this as your sign your work is immense and you deserve to be included in conversations about how to better support mothers. Source: Salary.com and further research and insight can be found here — https://finance.yahoo.com/news/much-economists-stay-home-moms-130001098.html Additional note: this is not to suggest women working out of the home aren’t ALSO doing immense work. This platform is specifically here to change the narrative around stay at home motherhood in America and as such this post is specific to our community of women on career breaks but we truly believe every mother works and every mother mothers even if the day to day and some of the challenges are different.
Two parts of the rebrand of the stay-at-home parent: 1. It’s immense valuable work 2. We’re still growing and learning. Why? So we get the support and respect needed during chapters of caregiving and the time away from the traditional workforce is respected and supported in our transition back to the paid workforce.
- This practice of accepting my feelings without judgment and leaning into self-compassion was the first and most important step in my healing journey. As we always say in the therapy room, you can’t heal what you don’t feel.
I also realized I had to forgive my past self. I had to forgive the version of myself who sat on that couch staring into space,... See more Rebecca Abrams on the effect of a second child on woman's feelings for her firstborn
