Lauren Wilde

Research shows that any woman leaving the workforce for any period of time after having children will substantially impact her future earning potential beyond any money they could save on childcare in the short term. Leaving the workforce permanently (or never entering it in the first place) renders her completely financially dependent on her... See more

“Darby Saxbe, a psychology professor at the University of Southern California, explains to me that couples often fall into a pattern of demand and retreat—most often, the woman demands and the man retreats. This dynamic has arisen, she says, because men have less to gain by changing their behavior, while women are more likely to want to alter the... See more

But the issue of children and who looks after them has become, in my view, profoundly political, and so it would be a contradiction to write a book about motherhood without explaining to some degree how I found the time to write it. For the first six months of Albertine’s life I looked after her at home while my partner continued to work. This

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This practice of accepting my feelings without judgment and leaning into self-compassion was the first and most important step in my healing journey. As we always say in the therapy room, you can’t heal what you don’t feel.

I also realized I had to forgive my past self. I had to forgive the version of myself who sat on that couch staring into space,... See more