Lauren Wilde

FWIW, in this newsletter, you’ll notice that we tend to use the term “pregnancy loss” more often than “miscarriage.” Some advocates in the space have noted that the word “miscarriage” can insinuate a mistake, badness, or error—ideas that can be internalized by a mother. It’s not wrong to use the word miscarriage—and we will use it occasionally—but... See more

Many mental health professionals don’t use the word “healing” when it comes to grief. In many ways, grief isn’t something you heal from; it’s something you grow with. It’s something you learn to stand side-by-side with. Something else to consider if you’re supporting someone through loss: Listen to how a loved one speaks about their loss, and try... See more

“Darby Saxbe, a psychology professor at the University of Southern California, explains to me that couples often fall into a pattern of demand and retreat—most often, the woman demands and the man retreats. This dynamic has arisen, she says, because men have less to gain by changing their behavior, while women are more likely to want to alter the... See more