Vicki T
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Vicki T
🎧: Dear Danny, Pt. 2: Can I have a kid without losing myself?
Haley Nahmanhaleynahman.substack.com
you have less leverage with your friends and that’s what makes their company enjoyable, the stakes are lower
people can tell when you want them to play a role in your life that’s different than that of a friend (something more eg: a sibling, a partner)
you have to learn to adjust your expectations (which is painful), you can’t be desperate for friendship
But when I think in terms of understanding the problem, or mapping the context , rather than solving it, I’m put in a state of mind that makes it easier for me to get it right. Being curious about the problem counteracts my confirmation bias and helps me see through to the deeper layers of the context where the better solutions hide.
Henrik Karlsson • How to solve a problem
understanding the context of a problem is crucial to coming up with solutions
Agency, as I see it, is an amalgamation of two skills, or mental dispositions: autonomy and efficacy.
- Agency requires the capacity to formulate autonomous goals in life—the capacity to dig inside and figure out what wants to happen through you, no matter how strange or wrong it seems to others. In other words, it requires autonomy (which was what I
Henrik Karlsson • On Agency
what is agency? breaking it down into 2 core components
