Stardustan
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Stardustan
Something that I first applied to working with children, and have applied in a limited form to working with adults: you don't need to tell someone when they read your instructions wrong. Sometimes it's enough to point out what they did right and then whatever they didn't do? You ask them to do it in more precise words, and you make it sound like it
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Feelings are also a warning signal telling us that we need to do something. For example, if you are angry at someone for something she did, it is your responsibility to go to her and tell her you are angry and why. If you think that your anger is her problem and that she needs to fix it, you may wait years. And your anger may turn to bitterness. If
... See moreJohn Townsend • Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life
It is not possible to think your way out of an interpersonal conflict or ambiguous social situation. The information that you require in order to move forward dwells inside of another person, and you literally cannot figure that out yourself, no matter how good at perception, pattern matching, fawning, making up scenarios in your head, preparing, o
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hottest language learning tip
write a diary
literally
just write a diary, it has helped me sooo much and i dare say it has been the most developing thing i’ve done while learning french, nothing else compares
1. you’re exposed to the language daily
2. you quickly see which words are missing from your vocabulary
3. you learn to write about the things you&
... See moreWhen we’re at a distance from our bodies we become confused about how to live our lives. This leads to fear, which produces violence, inequitable rights, and self-isolation. The distance we live from our body is the distance we live from our self, from our emotional reality.
Richard Strozzi-Heckler • The Art of Somatic Coaching: Embodying Skillful Action, Wisdom, and Compassion
When we speak of the ills of the world—violence, poverty, injustice—we are not speaking conceptually; we are talking about things that happen to bodies.
Sonya Renee Taylor • The Body Is Not an Apology
if you’re promoting changes to women’s behaviour to “prevent” rape, you’re really saying “make sure he rapes the other girl”
@itsmotherswork (X/twitter)
We’re wired for small, close-knit communities, but instead we’re lost in the chaos of a massive, impersonal society. It’s no wonder we’re struggling—this isn’t the environment we were built for. The cracks are everywhere. Just scroll through social media or read the comments on a political post, and you’ll see it: a storm of anger, hostility, and d... See more
Poetic Outlaws • The Comfortable Life Is Killing You
society and connection
‘A lot of “people acting like fucking weirdos” can be explained by “zoo human syndrome”. This is when people’s lived environments are so antithetical to their creaturely needs that they develop all sorts of neurotic tics, much like animals in captivity. Widespread phenomena’
Nate @TornadoNate (X/Twitter)
‘the lethargy that marks most humans today is of the same flavour as a caged animal’
no grasper @nograsper (X/Twitter)