Shini Ko
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Shini Ko
Starving people will eat anything to survive. Make sure you aren’t starved for things like affection, companionship, attention, social interaction, etc.
Being single on purpose
This reminds me some of my darker days. I clinged onto people who were not good for me because I had no one else. I feel a sense of shame in admitting this.
32. How Life Changes When You Realize the Rules are Made Up
podcasts.apple.comBias towards action, even if it might not be the most optimal. Once you’re in action, it’s easier to course correct. Momentum > inertia.
Surround yourself with people who puts me into action rather than settling into despair. Certainty, even if it’s certainty of despair is more comfortable than unknown. Be aware.
going back to the roots of myself.
Loré Yessuff • Poet and professor Ross Gay on abandoning capitalistic achievement to seek the freedom of play – The Creative Independent
Roots. Coming back to my genuine self. I want to find my roots. I want to grow my roots. I want to put down roots.
At its core, taste is self-trust.
one is more likely to find moments or aspects of joy in isolation when we can rest on knowing we have meaningful connections outside of isolating moments. We are able to tap into our own agency and autonomy, because we have practiced and honed skills to do so.
LCSW • Unleashing the Power of Agency and Autonomy: The Key to Thriving in Your Professional and Personal Life
it’s easy, as a woman, to compactify illness into a consumable package — to whittle at the edges of pathology until it becomes little more than smudged eyeliner and wild sex. childhood trauma becomes daddy issues, suicidal depression becomes mystique. selling your pain is easier than living with it.
When the objective or intended outcome is power, no one gets the connection they seek and need. When feeling powerless or helpless, a
protective part may get activated to utilize strategies for regaining power, rather than seeking connection.
protective part may get activated to utilize strategies for regaining power, rather than seeking connection.
Unleashing the Power of Agency and Autonomy: The Key to Thriving in Your Professional and Personal Life
I started to notice that every impulsive decision I made (every “add to cart”) came after a scroll session. The more I consumed, the more I felt lack.
“Wait, that will be a task. That will be a pursuit.” You know? Now, I’m lucky. I get to choose a little bit.