Parents must find balance between helping their child discover identity versus grooming their child to assume the parent’s identity.

one is more likely to find moments or aspects of joy in isolation when we can rest on knowing we have meaningful connections outside of isolating moments. We are able to tap into our own agency and autonomy, because we have practiced and honed skills to do so.

When the objective or intended outcome is power, no one gets the connection they seek and need. When feeling powerless or helpless, a

protective part may get activated to utilize strategies for regaining power, rather than seeking connection.