Shini Ko

It should be assumed that anything posted publicly is part of someone’s public life and therefore, not the full story. It’s not your responsibility to remind your followers that you’re a flawed human so they don’t feel bad about themselves.

Starving people will eat anything to survive. Make sure you aren’t starved for things like affection, companionship, attention, social interaction, etc.

At its core, taste is self-trust.

I started to notice that every impulsive decision I made (every “add to cart”) came after a scroll session. The more I consumed, the more I felt lack.

the aesthetics of consumption have, in turn, become a conduit to make the self more easily consumable

it’s easy, as a woman, to compactify illness into a consumable package — to whittle at the edges of pathology until it becomes little more than smudged eyeliner and wild sex. childhood trauma becomes daddy issues, suicidal depression becomes mystique. selling your pain is easier than living with it.

Baumol Effect, which means, “We’ll spend more on what doesn’t get more productive.

Parents must find balance between helping their child discover identity versus grooming their child to assume the parent’s identity.

one is more likely to find moments or aspects of joy in isolation when we can rest on knowing we have meaningful connections outside of isolating moments. We are able to tap into our own agency and autonomy, because we have practiced and honed skills to do so.