Sublime

I had no idea how all the pieces fit together. I believed that I came from a pretty good family and had lived a pretty good life. When I began observing other men with traits similar to my own, I encountered the same general lack of insight into the origins of their own emotional and behavioral patterns.

Stressful environments and challenging interpersonal situations add the necessary texture to bring out deeply buried resistance patterns that can be quite hard to see in a life dedicated solely to quiet contemplation.

Another way they recreate their childhood wounding is by breaking the connection with others and leaving at the first hint of an emotional disturbance. When they leave, the other person feels abandoned and protests in some way, which creates the very sort of emotional disturbance that they feared. The other person’s frustration and anger then seem

The mono-mind paradigm has caused us to fear our parts and view them as pathological. In our attempts to control what we consider to be disturbing thoughts and emotions, we just end up fighting, ignoring, disciplining, hiding, or feeling ashamed of those impulses that keep us from doing what we want to do in our lives. And then we shame ourselves f

concern, or shifts in moods in group settings, the more skilled you will be in maneuvering through the social wilds of your life.

Life is stressful and depressing for a person who learns through childhood to be helpless.