Sublime

Bill shared, Larry could feel those awful feelings of shame and rejection coming up again. In his effort not to feel those feelings again, he would push others in high places to validate his worth and elevate him to the top spot no matter what. If he could get them to do this, he wouldn’t have to feel the devastating shame he carried. As Bill gentl

The more powerful our client is, the less likely she is to receive the unvarnished truth that is so critical for making good decisions and correcting ineffective leadership behaviors that may greatly impede her effectiveness.

So I started using this “step back” technique with individuals. I’d have them ask other parts to step aside so that pairs of parts could really dig in and listen to each other. For

Developing secure attachments with trustworthy others is important in healing the deficits left by undermothering.

I guide patients to understand both what causes and what maintains their self-defeating behaviors. The self-defeating behaviors first emerged as useful behaviors, things they did to satisfy a need, usually a need for one of the As: approval, affection, attention.

For leaders, this approach accesses a mind-set that includes a focus on both results (action) and on growth (learning).

Underneath, the patient was extremely sensitive to feeling shame and responded to almost any kind of criticism by becoming petrified that she was being seen as similar to her mother.

question of what happens when these are missing.

internal working models.11 He saw them as maps you developed as a child of what to expect from your caretaker and the world in general, and then from subsequent close relationships.