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marshmallow or that plate there with two marshmallows (that one, of course). Then the man tells you that he has to go out of the room for a little while, and if you can wait until he comes back, you can have the two marshmallows. If you don’t want to wait, you can ring this bell here, and he’ll come right back and give you the plate with one; but
... See moreJonathan Haidt • The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom
However, if his caregivers thwart his actions and punish him for acting separately from them, then he won’t learn that he can act to get what he needs or develop a felt sense of pride in his own separate abilities.
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
Each type of ego state has its own vital value for the human organism. In the Child reside intuition,3 creativity and spontaneous drive and enjoyment. The Adult is necessary for survival. It processes data and computes the probabilities which are essential for dealing effectively with the outside world.
Eric Berne • Games People Play
“Becoming is better than being.”
Carol S. Dweck • Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
The other half were put in a growth mindset. He told them that computer skills could be developed through practice. Everyone,
Carol S. Dweck • Mindset - Updated Edition: Changing The Way You think To Fulfil Your Potential
Accommodation to parental needs often (but not always) leads to the “as-if personality.” This person develops in such a way that he reveals only what is expected of him and fuses so completely with what he reveals that one could scarcely guess how much more there is to him behind this false self. He cannot develop and differentiate his true self,
... See moreAlice Miller • The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
Our model is really based on a metaphor. We propose that at any point in time an individual consists of two selves. There is a forward-looking “planner” who has good intentions and cares about the future, and a devil-may-care “doer” who lives for the present.