Sublime

For Rogers, the cardinal sin in therapy, or in teaching or family life, is the imposition of authority. A radical egalitarian, Rogers sees individuals as capable of self-direction without regard for received wisdom and outside of organizations such as the church or the academy. Despite its origins in the helping relationship, Rogers’s philosophy is

Giftedness

You have created a life, now let the child have it. Let him decide what he wants to do with the life you gave him

Thompson, by eighth grade 50 percent of kids still make decisions of moral consequence based on whether they will lead to punishment.

what you see on the surface is a child’s behavior and that what you don’t see is the child’s legitimate need for our shared support and regulation of those needs.

Dan McAdams. He’s a brilliant and exceptionally creative professor at Northwestern University’s School of Education and Social Policy and the author of the influential book The Stories We Live By: Personal Myths and the Making of the Self.

We want him to be assertive, but not aggressive; to be empathetic, but not naive; to be “a doer,” but also introspective; to be perseverant, but not stubborn; to be prepared, but not obsessive; to help people, but not enable them . . .