Sublime

we talk to ourselves more than we’ll talk to any other person over the course of our lives but that our words aren’t always kind or true or helpful—or even respectful. Most of what we say to ourselves we’d never say to people we love or care about, like our friends or children. In therapy, we learn to pay close attention to those voices in our

Groves wrote, if a patient repeatedly makes a doctor angry, the patient is likely a “demander,” whose unreasonable expectations simply need to be redirected into a desire for good medical care. A patient whom a doctor finds depressing may be a chronic “help rejecter,” who needs reassurance that the doctor won’t abandon him or her once a symptom