Sublime

Traumatized people are afraid of conflict. They fear losing control and ending up on the losing side once again.

The essence of psychotherapy lies in a willingness to get systematically interested in why we constantly respond in the bizarre and uncalled-for ways we exhibit. It asks by what sequence of formative experiences an otherwise perfectly decent and intelligent person could be led to sob on the floor or threaten to jump out of the window after an argum

Different Voices

Knowing why your buttons are what they are opens doors to managing your reactions to your triggers.

But as anyone who has worked with issues of so-called codependency knows, accommodation, while overtly self-denying, is in fact, also a form of control—trying to “not set him off.” I define codependent behavior as occurring when you back away from perfectly reasonable behavior—like telling the truth—for fear of your partner’s unreasonable response.

Traumatized human beings recover in the context of relationships: with families, loved ones, AA meetings, veterans’ organizations, religious communities, or professional therapists.