Sublime

Or share what’s going on with your Identity Conversation:

your contrasting stories, your intentions, or your contributions,

Denial Clinging to a purely positive identity leaves no place in our self-concept for negative feedback.

After a lifetime of being a big sister, Alison couldn’t change being bossy overnight even if she wanted to. At some point, her younger brother may find it easier to accept her as her imperfect, bossy self than to continue to fight with her. He can work through the identity issues that make it easy for Alison to get to him, and love her for the thin

The gold standard here is working for mutual understanding. Not mutual agreement,

BECOME A “FAIR WITNESS”:

Don’t Monopolize: Both Sides Can Have Strong Feelings at the Same Time.

We understand life’s challenges as our personal curriculum;

The more you can relieve the other person of the need to defend themselves, the easier it becomes for them to take in what you are saying and to reflect on the complexity of their motivations.