Sublime

As Welch had done, he attacked the elitism.

But for this to happen, people need to feel they’re on the same side.

Your habitual ways of interacting with the important people in your life tell us a great deal about the defense mechanisms you typically use.

Part of the low-effort belief is the idea that couples should be able to read each other’s minds:

Every decision we make or action we perform when confronted with an obstacle is a choice that reveals – through action – our personality.

and uncover the forgotten, the disused, and the buried. There we can imagine the future and also pore over the scar maps of the psyche, learning what led to what, and where we will go next.

Some people let these experiences scar them and prevent them from forming satisfying relationships in the future.

If you feel safe and loved, your brain becomes specialized in exploration, play, and cooperation; if you are frightened and unwanted, it specializes in managing feelings of fear and abandonment.

Recognize that knowing what someone (including you) is like will tell you what you can expect from them.