Sublime

To call attention to the feelings and needs underneath painful interactions, we not only unpack the couple’s external, interpersonal dynamics, we also unpack their internal, intrapersonal dynamics, which motivate protectors. As long as protectors keep activating over the course of therapy, we track their interactions.

the many dimensions of respecting a person’s process, injuries, and tweaks as well as the important boundaries that are necessary for entering this territory that is often like being a “midwife of the embodied experience.”

Rather than the therapist having the job of assessing and diagnosing the client so as to arrive at the correct advice or prescription, the client and therapist work jointly on the client’s future.

function more independently.

In high mood therapy, clients engage the thoughts we have in high moods—insights, non-contingent positive feelings and big-picture perspectives.

and the feisty two-year-old who still waits for the parent who will make them feel safe, loved and accepted.

Experience has taught me that the most effective form of therapy is one that combines both schools of thought.

develop your own Good Mother inside.

who you want to be, how you want to be there for the people in your life and how to hold boundaries and nurture yourself within those relationships can act as a compass.