Sublime

Why did she endure such treatment? She had come to look to men for the kind of deep affirmation and acceptance that only God can provide. As a result, she became a slave to love.

Many women are not being treated in a way that makes them feel loved, cherished, and protected by their man. Their feelings aren't heard. Their needs aren't met. Their love is not reciprocated. Their boundaries are not respected. Not to the level that they deserve. Not to the level that they need to truly thrive as women. Not even close. It's

parent uses him to gratify his or her own needs

I had begun therapy to work on issues in my marriage. I couldn’t figure out why being such a Nice Guy didn’t make my wife happy or make her want to have more sex with me. No matter how hard I tried to please her, keep the peace, avoid conflict, and hide my needs, she was still frequently moody, angry, critical, and sexually unavailable.

A woman with poor self-esteem who wants to be a “good girl,” who feels the need to retain mother’s or father’s love at all costs, often proceeds very obediently either to select a husband with whom happiness is clearly impossible or to manufacture unhappiness in a marriage where happiness might have been possible.

The oldest of three children in a single parent family, Alan prided himself on having never caused his mother a moment’s pain.