Sublime

You may become aware of a rumour at the back of the mind which says that, if you ever let go of striving, or became more compassionate and accepting, you’d lose your ‘edge’ and become too soft for your own good.

Acceptance is not about control.

by building your acceptance skills you can begin to listen to your painful memories and cope with current distress in a less defensive, impulsive way.

At one point she described how she was learning to be “her own best friend.” A huge wave of sadness came over me, and I broke down sobbing. I was the furthest thing from my own best friend. I was continually harassed by an inner judge who was merciless, relentless, nit-picking, driving, often invisible but always on the job. I knew I would never tr

Self-kindness vs. self-judgment: “Self-compassion entails being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism. Self-compassionate people recognize that being imperfect, failing, and experiencing life difficulties [are] inevitable, so they