Sublime

mindful conversation.

More and more, you will be able to respond consciously when big feelings are activated in your relationships rather than reacting from a sympathetic state.

The Wayward Mind by Guy Claxton.

Overall conversations are about working toward a common shared goal,

Self-Led: This occurs when an individual has the capacity to hear, understand, and be present with parts internally and with other people externally, offering the clarity of a systemic perspective, a willingness to take responsibility, and the spirit of loving-kindness.

The goal is self-knowledge, self-reliance, self-love, self-trust, and improved intimacy with others. It is often hard-won. And it often takes many years to feel that any shift has occurred.

Rand’s first insight is that self-awareness is an absolute requirement. By fostering the ability to notice things about yourself — your own depression, for example — you can remove or put into remission the so-called power tumor. The more you get to know yourself, what your triggers are, and what personally drives you outside of external motivation

Express the Full Spectrum of Your Feelings

And all these different skills rest on one foundational skill: the ability to understand what another person is going through. There is one skill that lies at the heart of any healthy person, family, school, community organization, or society: the ability to see someone else deeply and make them feel seen-to accurately know another person, to let t