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Neuroses or personality problems ruin marriages. Research has found only the weakest connection between run-of-the-mill neuroses and failing at love. The reason: We all have issues we’re not totally rational about. We call these triggers “enduring vulnerabilities,” a term we borrowed from Tom Bradbury of UCLA. They don’t necessarily interfere with
... See moreJohn Gottman • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
Part of the low-effort belief is the idea that couples should be able to read each other’s minds:
Carol S. Dweck • Mindset - Updated Edition: Changing The Way You think To Fulfil Your Potential
compete for the emotional resources in the relationship and to be the one that is “right.”
Helen LaKelly Hunt • Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples: Third Edition
Some people leave a marriage literally, by divorcing. Others do so by staying together but leading parallel lives. Whatever the route, there are four final stages that signal the death knell of a relationship. 1. The couple see their marital problems as severe. 2. Talking things over seems useless. Partners try to solve problems on their own. 3. Th
... See moreJohn Gottman • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
Perhaps the most striking thing I learned is that the answer to whether today’s marriages are better or worse is “both”: The average marriage today is weaker than the average marriage of yore, in terms of both satisfaction and divorce rate, but the best marriages today are much stronger, in terms of both satisfaction and personal well-being, than t
... See moreEli J. Finkel • Opinion | The All-or-Nothing Marriage (Published 2014)
At its root level, Game is a series of behavioral modifications and learned life skills based on psychological and sociological principles to facilitate intersexual relations between the sexes.
Rollo Tomassi • The Rational Male - The Players Handbook: A Red Pill Guide to Game
At the heart of the Seven Principles approach is the simple truth that happy marriages are based on a deep friendship. By this I mean a mutual respect for and enjoyment of each other’s company. These couples tend to know each other intimately—they are well versed in each other’s likes, dislikes, personality quirks, hopes, and dreams. They have an a
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