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Psychologist Dolf Zillmann at the University of Alabama has found that when male subjects are deliberately treated rudely and then told to relax for twenty minutes, their blood pressure surges and stays elevated until they get to retaliate. But when women face the same treatment, they are able to calm down during those twenty minutes. (It’s interes
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sociologist Jessie Bernard argued in the early 1970s that increasing men’s opportunities for sexually novel partners was one of the most important social changes required in Western societies to promote marital happiness.29
Cacilda Jetha • Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
The problem, at one level, seemed clear. Both Rob and Nicole were unconsciously guilty about hurting each other. Both were burdened by exaggerated feelings of responsibility. Both felt that they had to worry about the other’s inner state and well-being to the exclusion of their own selfish pleasure.
Michael J. Bader • Arousal
In such cases, the effect will be stronger than when the effect is asymmetric, with a defection rate of just 5 per cent being sufficient to reduce the number of close relationships.
Robin Dunbar • Friends: Understanding the Power of our Most Important Relationships
they assume the worst about each other to such a pervasive degree that they become trapped in an absorbing state of negativity that I call the Roach Motel for Lovers. This horrible place is marked by endless conflict and bad feelings. Couples “check in” to it and then discover they can’t get out. When couples become trapped in the Roach Motel, they
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Shreeda Segan • Dangerous Dating Protocols Web
Your relationship with your spouse is the most critical relationship in your life;
Scott Galloway • The Algebra of Wealth: A Simple Formula for Success
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. —Leo Tolstoy, writer
Meg Jay • The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
When a marriage gets to the point where the couple have rewritten their history, when their minds and bodies make it virtually impossible to communicate and repair their current problems, their relationship is almost bound to fail without the right help. The partners find themselves constantly on red alert. Because they always expect to do combat,
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