Sublime

a design that aims to teach her and us what to see and what to ignore, especially in ourselves.

Jose worked hard all of his life to be different from his family. His family had him on a pedestal, and he was the one to whom everyone turned whenever they had a problem. His job as a family member was fixing chaos.

This process raises the question: Who are you without all of your stories and defenses?

A child can be falsely empowered through neglect, as happens when kids are parented by gangs of peers in lieu of appropriate adults to guide them. Children need limits. Children’s natural grandiose, selfish tendencies need to be ameliorated by an adult.

that this essential Self is who we really are.

The child within is our original identity which knows how to love and trust freely.

There’s a spiritual principle at work here: to move beyond some part of you, you must first get to know it and ultimately befriend it.

There’s a saying in psychology that we have to take responsibility for what we’re not responsible for. This means that we are not responsible (as no infant is) for what happened to us to stunt us and to fixate us in our early years when our personalities were formed and when we got stuck at immature levels of masculinity. Yet it does us no good to

Whenever Chris felt fear, he targeted that reaction for immediate action. He forced himself again and again to face whatever made him most afraid. As he systematically faced each fear and overcame them, Chris’ life was transformed from a wasteland of desperate avoidance to a fulfilling system of relationships and meaningful work which Chris himself