Sublime

And we can put the stupid fig leaves away. They aren’t helping. The gospel is fuel for courageous unself-consciousness. And this is what people really need from us! The freedom to drop the pretense, to be radically un-self-conscious—not un-self-reflective, by any means, but un-self-concerned—and so liberated by God’s approval of us in Christ Jesus

Since we grew up with an orientation to fear, shame, and abandonment, we seek out situations that recreate these feelings in ourselves. This is a shocking claim, but many of us can relate to it.

The great teachers understand that where we come from affects where we go, and that what sits unresolved in our past influences our present. They know that our parents are important, regardless of whether they are good at parenting or not. There’s no way around it: The family story is our story. Like it or not, it resides within us. Regardless of t

with curiosity and compassion.

We do not have to accept that our lives have been propelled by indeterminate forces beyond our control. We can choose to become agents of our own destiny.

stories we tell ourselves are to our comfort and security in life. And why an important part of their power derives from the sense of superiority over others with which they endow us.

As ACoAs we need to learn how to nurture and fulfill ourselves.