Sublime

Our impulse is usually either to try to deny our pain, by suppression or self-medication, or to get caught up in dwelling on it through rumination and worry, allowing it to take charge of our lives. Psychological flexibility empowers us to accept our pain and live life as we desire, with our pain when there is pain.

“Love hurts,” the song goes. So many times I have given love that has not been returned. As a child, I was the one who loved my parents unconditionally. Wasn’t it supposed to be the other way around? Many painful years later I realized that my parents were unable to love me in a healthy way. As I grew up, I chose people to love who weren’t capable

Pain is a real feeling, but that feeling does not necessarily reflect real damage in the body. Further, although pain depends on brain activity for its existence, this does not mean you can simply think pain away or that pain is your fault. Unfortunately, the processes which create pain are mostly unconscious and outside your control.

without him, rolled on the floor of our apartment clutching his stomach like the distance bred physical pain.