Caryn Tan
@caryntan
oil painter🎨, longboarder🛹, writer✍🏼 & bodyworker💆🏻‍♀️
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On the default path, optionality can be a trap. This is because you
are trapped within your own career narrative. On the pathless path,
however, optionality can pay consistent dividends because you are not
holding out for another job but leaving space for a little more life.
are trapped within your own career narrative. On the pathless path,
however, optionality can pay consistent dividends because you are not
holding out for another job but leaving space for a little more life.
Gumroad
I am not
nuts. I am happy. I am successful on my own terms. Because if
your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world
but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.
– Anna
Quindlen
nuts. I am happy. I am successful on my own terms. Because if
your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world
but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.
– Anna
Quindlen
Gumroad
Many
people who leave the default path do so because they’ve become cynical
and are driven by a desire to escape. But escaping is only the first step
of leaving a certain path behind. In order to create a sustainable journey
and path, it requires finding ways of orienting to the world that leave
space for hope.
people who leave the default path do so because they’ve become cynical
and are driven by a desire to escape. But escaping is only the first step
of leaving a certain path behind. In order to create a sustainable journey
and path, it requires finding ways of orienting to the world that leave
space for hope.
Gumroad
On the default path, your job often provides recognition
and praise.
When you are on your own, without a specific job or
colleagues, you may miss that kind of support.
This is why it’s so
important to know what kind of people you want to work with and
who you want to serve.
and praise.
When you are on your own, without a specific job or
colleagues, you may miss that kind of support.
This is why it’s so
important to know what kind of people you want to work with and
who you want to serve.
Gumroad
We tend to think of creativity as a predetermined ability, like someone
who might have a genetic advantage to run faster. Instead, I think
creativity is more of an active choice and the removal of gatekeepers
means that for the first time it might take more energy to deny your
own creative expression than exploring it.
who might have a genetic advantage to run faster. Instead, I think
creativity is more of an active choice and the removal of gatekeepers
means that for the first time it might take more energy to deny your
own creative expression than exploring it.
Gumroad
A significant barrier to figuring out what we really want to do is the
voice in our head that warns us to stop when we consider or start doing
things that are not broadly seen as “normal.”
voice in our head that warns us to stop when we consider or start doing
things that are not broadly seen as “normal.”
Gumroad
Behind our money fears are existential fears, like the fear of death or the
fear of not being loved, respected, and admired
fear of not being loved, respected, and admired
Gumroad
If we don’t define “enough,” we default to
more
, which makes it
impossible to understand when to say
no
.
more
, which makes it
impossible to understand when to say
no
.
Gumroad
shift your mindset from what you lack to what you have to offer,
from ambition to aspiration, and from hoping that joy will result from
a specific outcome to experiencing it as a byproduct of your journey.
from ambition to aspiration, and from hoping that joy will result from
a specific outcome to experiencing it as a byproduct of your journey.