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We emerge, as infants, from a relational matrix and then struggle to come to terms with the trauma of aloneness.
Mark Epstein • The Trauma of Everyday Life
The more recent research changes this picture. Lusts don’t dictate thoughts, and “bonding” isn’t a once-and-for-all event that must take place in a critical period. Knowledge guides emotion more than emotion distorts knowledge. The relations between parents and children, like other human relations, develop and change as both partners come to know a
... See moreAlison Gopnik, Andrew N. Meltzoff, • The Scientist In The Crib: Minds, Brains, And How Children Learn
Although I have described this process in the context of a close therapeutic relationship, a similar process could happen with any potential attachment figure who stays consistently present and supports this evolution.
Jasmin Lee Cori MS LPC • The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed
A capacity for tolerating frustration thus enables the psyche to develop thought as a means by which the frustration that is tolerated is itself made more tolerable.
Adam Phillips • Missing Out: In Praise of the Unlived Life
Fromm argued that those freed from oppression but unable to develop a positive version of freedom were destined to be filled with feelings of separateness and anxiety.
Paul Millerd • The Pathless Path: Imagining a New Story For Work and Life
the fundamental need for connection and the fear of losing it,
Sue Johnson • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
afraid to allow children to get much distance or experience much autonomy