Sublime

No girl is born hating her body or feeling ashamed of her sexuality. You had to learn that. No girl is born worried that she’ll be judged if someone finds out what kind of sex she enjoys. You had to learn that, too.

on the whole women tend to have a lot (and I’m talking a lot) of negative conditioning regarding sex. Much more than men do, in fact. Until we thaw out the iceberg of fear and shame that encases a lot of female sexuality in our culture—a thawing out that happens naturally when she is stroked—there is a tendency for her to return to her old habits o

“It sounds like your body is opting for the ‘freeze’ stress response, where it just shuts down instead of trying to escape or fight,” I said. “It’s what happens when a person

atenção sexual masculina e o impulso de controlar o corpo feminino andam de mãos dadas.

One of the first surprising findings was the universality of the components across different groups – men and women, young and old, LGBTQ and straight, monogamous and consensually non-monogamous, kinky and “vanilla” (that is, non-kinky).

Slow Sex simplifies things. It throws out all expectation about what her orgasm should look like

It’s the same sensation, but because the context is different, your perception of that sensation is different.

With positive reappraisal, you can acknowledge when things are difficult, and you recognize that the difficulty is worth it—it is, in fact, an opportunity.