Sublime

One of the telltale characteristics of the you and me Adaptive Child is that it is automatic, a knee-jerk response.

But a therapist who joins through the truth takes the client along, helps them see where they’ve veered off track. In order to accept the therapist’s confrontation, the client must feel that they are on their side.

Our brains are constantly making connections that are outside our awareness.

There is a pot of adaptive gold awaiting the complete processing of each core emotion.

observe how you interact with other people, you may detect subtle changes in your speech, attitude, and behavior depending on the person you are interacting with.

This process raises the question: Who are you without all of your stories and defenses?

Self-involved

Sullivan believed that our struggles were interactional (meaning “relational”). He went so far as to say, “It’s the mark of a senior clinician that he or she is the same person in their living room that they are in their office.” We can’t teach patients to be relational if we aren’t relational with them.