Sublime

She wanted the parents to shape an environment of self-respect and self-confidence, not just for the stammering child but for every member of the family, so that the whole atmosphere of the home was one in which people felt safe to change and help others to do so.

Freud (1927), the father of psychology, divided the psyche into three parts: the id, the ego, and the superego. He saw the id as our primal, animal nature; the superego as the judgment system that society has instilled within us; and the ego as our representative to the outside world that struggles to maintain a balance between the other two

Berne described the ego states Parent, Adult, and Child as observable behaviour. The ego states of transactional analysis are phenomenological realities, visible in direct interaction (Berne, 1961). Parent, Adult, and Child represent real people who currently exist or once existed, who have a name and an identity, a shoe size, and a phone number.

in at least one of Freud’s envisionings of this, we are by inclination self-satisfying and self-satisfied creatures forced to acknowledge our dependence on others.

A lot of therapists, when they carry the archetypal transferences of other people, find themselves having disturbing symptoms. They might say, “I've had twenty years of therapy, and I feel just as crazy as I did when I started.” What they don't realize is that other people's archetypal transferences have overstimulated their own grandiosity. When

How are we supposed to reach, motivate, or lead other people if we can’t relate to their needs—because we’ve lost touch with our own?

Adaptive Child fixers are fueled by an anxious, driven need to take anyone’s tension away from them as quickly as possible. Their motto is “I’m upset until you’re not.”

A leader is held responsible for the sins of the people he leads – at least those he might have prevented (Shabbat 54b). With power comes responsibility: the greater the power, the greater the responsibility.

So much of leading well is feeling supported by the congregation,