Sublime

THE STATIC MINDSET. Some people formed a certain conception of you, one that may even have been largely accurate at some point in time. But then you grew up. You changed profoundly. And those people never updated their models to see you now for who you really are. If you’re an adult who has gone home to stay with your parents and realized that they

Foster a Taste for Action

Living under the dominance of his mother had given him the habit of not taking responsibility for his choices and of not accepting them as his own. It created a kind of emotional detachment, a sense of unreality in him for the consequences of his behavior toward others.

To diagnose a system or yourself while in the midst of action requires the ability to achieve some distance from those on-the-ground events.

Visitor: May have concern for no one else, seeks novelty or fun experiences. Novice: Concern for individual self, seeks personal achievement and legitimacy. Member: Concern for one’s peer group, seeks success and respect for the group. Elder: Concern for everyone in the tribe everywhere, seeks the whole tribe’s success and respect. Principal elder:

One of the strengths of Bernean game analysis is that it links people’s internal experiences with their interpersonal behaviors, the psychological and the social, both in the moment and over time.

We have drives in us that urge us to respond to stimuli as wounded young children, still hurting from unmet needs for recognition or love. Are we going to shrink back into the wounded self, or are we going to notice and value the relationships in which our lives are embedded and see that we are part of a larger system? Noticing the value of these r

People need encouragement if they are to lead.