Sublime

To see ourselves as others see us is a most salutary gift. Hardly less important is the capacity to see others as they see themselves.

Embody and practice what you would have others learn; leave teaching to the less able.

Regard and Self-Awareness

All individuals are different. Each one has his own identity — with his own knowledge, understanding, perception, and attitudes. You’re in the Identity Trap when you overlook these differences — and that can get in the way of your freedom.

there is no Other - that the Other is simply Oneself in all the significant essentials.

In coaching, the story of how team members and clients became who they are is interesting but mostly extraneous. As coaches, our concern is that our clients learn to author their own stories. This begins with the competency of observing, at a moment-by-moment level, how they are shaped by their attachments and aversions.

We are (usually) the sympathetic hero of the story. In his speech to a graduating class at Kenyon, writer David Foster Wallace observed that there is “no experience you’ve had that you were not at the absolute center of.” We are each “lords of our own tiny skull-sized

Contrary to our most basic human assumption, we are not human beings who possess consciousness—we are consciousness having a very human experience, with all the ups and downs, triumphs and tragedies that this entails.