Sublime

The emotional load sharing and efficiency of the “group mind” leaves each individual’s prefrontal cortex with a lot less work to do than it would have on its own.

these demand-distance spirals are all about attachment panic

Scientists have known for decades that the brain relegates more habitual jobs (like checking breathing and heart rate) to less thoughtful, more automatic, less energy-draining parts of the nervous system.

Abdicating our responsibility to live our own lives can have dire consequences.

corresponds with who they want to be.

He is the man whose life seems so under control, until BOOM, one day he does something to destroy it

We rob ourselves of immeasurable joy when we compare what we do know about ourselves with what we don’t know about someone else.

For a few hours, he’ll stay behind the steering wheel, watching the yellow rectangles in her building go out, one by one, the first and only time he’s been on a stakeout for himself.

Not yet does he understand that there is a my way and a your way, but that there is no “the” way.