Sublime

Lonely people are scanning for threats because they unconsciously know that nobody is looking out for them, so no one will help them if they are hurt.

who can put their needs on hold and continually manage their tendencies.

An untamed mind is a minefield.

But something within him compelled him to hurt himself during those times when his inner pain and shame were triggered. His Firefighter was trying to help him. But our Firefighters aren’t simply those in-the-moment, reactive parts of us. Firefighters can also be keen and crafty, plotting ways of self-soothing.

He could only relax when he was completely alone, but being alone reminded Chris of how desperately unfulfilled he felt.

Resentment mounts as the previously-healthy partner finds themselves doing and saying things they abhor.

Psychological problems occur when our internal signals don’t work, when our maps don’t lead us where we need to go, when we are too paralyzed to move, when our actions do not correspond to our needs, or when our relationships break down. Every brain structure that I discuss has a role to play in these essential functions, and as we will see, trauma