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A certain child enters our life with its individual troubles, difficulties, stubbornness, and temperamental challenges in order to help us become aware of how much we have yet to grow. The reason this works is that our children are able to take us into the remnants of our emotional past and evoke deeply unconscious feelings. Consequently, to unders
... See moreHis Holiness The Dalai Lama • The Conscious Parent
This child gave his heart to the seducing parent,3 tried to love and protect that parent, and be what that parent needed, only to find that he had been betrayed.
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
The twentieth-century psychoanalyst Donald W. Winnicott observed that children playing within a certain radius of their mothers display higher levels of creativity in their games than those who play farther away.
Tal Ben-Shahar • Short Cuts to Happiness: Life-Changing Lessons from My Barber
Notice that these psychologisms draw attention away from the child and back to the parent, who asks: “How am I doing?” They raise doubts and anxieties, not about the nature of the child, but about the parents’ own problems: Have I the right attitude? Am I too strict? Too lenient? Am I good enough?—all of which reveal the inherent and almost inescap
... See moreJames Hillman • The Soul's Code
Our idea of what a good, loving relationship should be like (and what it feels like to be loved) doesn’t ever come from what we’ve seen in adulthood; it arises from a stranger, more powerful source. The idea of happy coupledom taps into a fundamental picture of comfort, deep security, wordless communication and our needs being effortlessly understo
... See moreAlain De Botton • The School of Life: An Emotional Education
“Si existiera algo que quisiéramos cambiar en el niño, deberíamos primeramente examinar y ver si no hay algo que podría ser mejor para cambiar en nosotros mismos”. Carl Jung
Luis Benítez • Carl Jung. Un chamán del siglo XX (Conocer a...) (Spanish Edition)
they saw parenting as being about teaching children how to behave. It wasn’t until 1946 that Dr. Benjamin Spock, in the original version of his megaseller The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care, widely popularized the idea that children’s feelings and individuality were important factors to consider, in addition to physical care and disciplin
... See moreLindsay C. Gibson • Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
In an emotionally healthy childhood, the child can see that the good carer isn’t either entirely good or wholly bad and so isn’t worthy of either idealization or denigration. The child accepts the faults and virtues of the carer with melancholy maturity and gratitude – and in doing so, by extension, becomes ready to accept that everyone they like w
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