Sublime

Micromanaging their decisions so they never grow beyond your control is smothering and will lead to either a weak adult or resentful estrangement. Educate your children for their own path.

He cannot rely on his own emotions, has not come to experience them through trial and error, has no sense of his own real needs, and is alienated from himself to the highest degree. Under these circumstances he cannot separate from his parents, and even as an adult he is still dependent on affirmation from his partner, from groups, and especially

Indeed, it is only after Freud that depictions of human absurdity have become commonplace.

Um mundo que exige tão alto grau de autocontrole, cinismo e racionalidade, marcado por extrema insegurança e competitividade, muito justificadamente enxerga na infância as virtudes capazes de contrabalançá-lo, qualidades que tiveram de ser abandonadas em caráter definitivo em troca das chaves para o mundo adulto.

A child can be falsely empowered through neglect, as happens when kids are parented by gangs of peers in lieu of appropriate adults to guide them. Children need limits. Children’s natural grandiose, selfish tendencies need to be ameliorated by an adult.

Bettelheim says fairy tales re-create the sort of dramas that lodge in our psyches and offer a way for children to understand that people are rarely all good or all evil, and that they can learn to navigate safely in the world.

An adult can be fully aware of his feelings only if he had caring parents or caregivers. People who were abused and neglected in childhood are missing this capacity and are therefore never overtaken by unexpected emotions. They will admit only those feelings that are accepted and approved by their inner censor, who is their parents’ heir.

We’ve all heard the saying “Children are meant to be seen, not heard.” It was a slogan of sorts that summed up our older generations’ mindset around raising children. This mindset was born out of an understanding that the only needs children had were basic, such as food and shelter. Resource scarcity was a reality for many members of these

Parents have a spiritual mandate to be guardian angels in the lives of their children. When parents lose sight of their spiritual mission and use their children selfishly, the children may develop emotional wounds that are significant and permanent. Parents must be willing to do whatever they need to do, including therapy, to rise to the occasion