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afraid to allow children to get much distance or experience much autonomy
Kent Hoffman • Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child's Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore
you deal with your PTSD
Kristin Beck • Warrior Princess: A U.S. Navy SEAL’s Journey to Coming out Transgender
Children are also programmed to be fundamentally loyal to their caretakers, even if they are abused by them. Terror increases the need for attachment, even if the source of comfort is also the source of terror.
Bessel van der Kolk • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
seemingly senseless behavior makes sense once you look at what is behind it.
Oprah Winfrey • What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
One of my great mentors, Pia Mellody, spoke of the Adaptive Child as a “kid in grown-up’s clothing.” The Adaptive Child is a child’s version of an adult,
Bruce Springsteen • Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (Goop Press)
These perpetrator parts would do the same thing in their psyches to their own vulnerable, childlike parts. This process—in which protectors in one generation take on the perpetrator burdens of their parents while they were being abused by those parents—is one way that legacy burdens are transferred.
Ph.D. Richard Schwartz • No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model
“Shutting down one’s feelings becomes the only way to survive childhood,”
Donna Jackson Nakazawa • Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology, and How You Can Heal
To be traumatized is to rarely or never feel truly safe. In the absence of that felt sense of safety, trauma leaves our bodies largely stuck in the hands of the aggressive Yellow and dissociative Red systems—or at least makes it a whole lot harder for us to get to Green.