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Unsere Beziehungen sollen helfen zu heilen.

We therapists encounter basically two kinds of couples—those who fight and those who distance. With fighters, I often find myself reaching through their many complaints to recall the good, what holds them together—their us. With distant couples, it’s most often the opposite. Instead of pulling for elements of repair, I must first help them surface

When you gradually shift focus from the abuser to yourself, it creates space for you to trust in your own truth, believe in yourself, and feel grounded in the present.

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Healing your emotional wounds means shattering the soft-focus lens of denial that pretties up ugly truths of family history and personal experience. It also means taking responsibility for your own misdeeds, whatever they may be. Once you’ve got the facts straight, you must also tell the truth about the feelings caused by hurtful events. This kind

The dynamics you learned in families of origin, and the neural networks laid down in early attachment relationships, showed up in any relationship that mattered to you, anything that was emotionally-meaningful, anything where your human desire for connection was in play. When your early experiences fell below the line of adequacy in some way,