Sublime

As you look at, listen to, touch, or help your child with this or that, you are alert, still, completely present, not wanting anything other than that moment as it

When you are comfortable acknowledging your flaws and daily mistakes, not in a self-flagellating manner but in a matter-of-fact manner, you convey to your children that mistakes are inevitable. By laughing at your errors and readily admitting your insecurities, you remove yourself from the pedestal of wonder. Setting aside hierarchy, you encourage

UN BREF RAPPEL… Aider les enfants aux prises avec leurs sentiments Les enfants ont besoin qu’on accueille et qu’on respecte leurs sentiments. ECOUTEZ EN SILENCE ET AVEC ATTENTION ACCUEILLEZ LEURS SENTIMENTS À L’AIDE D’UN MOT – Oh ! Hum ! Je vois. NOMMEZ LE SENTIMENT – Ça a l’air frustrant. UTILISEZ L’IMAGINAIRE POUR LEUR OFFRIR CE QU’ILS SOUHAITENT

Bloom said children go through

Most children experience a mixture of emotions toward their siblings and become uncomfortable or resentful when told they feel only hatred. A more helpful statement would be, “It seems to me that you have two feelings about your brother. Sometimes you like him a lot and sometimes he makes you mad as the dickens.”

“Você está brava mesmo, mamãe. Você queria que ele conversasse quando está com raiva, e não que fosse embora correndo”. Laurence ficou maravilhada porque, ao ouvir as palavras de Isabelle, sentiu uma diminuição imediata da tensão e depois, quando o filho voltou, conseguiu ser mais compreensiva com ele.

Do you remember what your parents did that increased the hostility between you and your siblings? Did they ever do anything that decreased the hostility?

The parent can show her how to stand up for herself.