Sublime

je reconnus aussitôt, à son écriture familière, qu’elle était de la main de Romain Rolland. Il avait dû lire mon article puisqu’il m’écrivait : « Non, je ne quitterai jamais mes amis*.» Je compris immédiatement que ces quelques lignes se voulaient une tentative pour vérifier s’il était possible, en temps de guerre, d’entamer une correspondance avec

“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”

you can, and will, feel this way again, so long as you are willing to part ways with the previously fixed story you’d been telling yourself about what the old person represented.

A bond between two people can be deep and important precisely because it is not played out across all practical details of existence.

Hannah, I believe you are the love of my life, and I’d rather live a life with forty babies that aren’t mine than be without you. I have missed you every day since I last saw you. I’ve missed you for years. I’m not saying this is an ideal situation. But I am saying that it’s one I’m on board for, if you’ll have me.”

No matter how much I tried to go back and fix the past by recreating similar relationships in the present, nothing could heal the pain that I had lived through.

You may not ever have a romantic relationship with Sadie, but you two will be friends for the rest of your lives, and that is something of equal or greater value, if you choose to see it that way.”

Aquelas de nós envolvidas em amizades românticas de longo prazo, algumas mais duradouras do que qualquer casamento ou parceria, não temem que esses compromissos se enfraqueçam se criarmos outros laços primordiais.