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Most self-help stuff can be mulched into some version of “Calm the fuck down, keep moving, and have good goals“ John Carlton
"How do I stay conscious enough to recognize beauty before it becomes memory?"
A HOLISTIC ATTITUDE. A great way to mis-see people is to see only a piece of them. Some doctors mis-see their patients when they see only their bodies
The one practice I kept was writing. It made the cut because I can’t deny how many good things in my life have come as a result of my putting words ou
“In order for the drama to deepen we must see the loneliness of the monster and the cunning of the innocent.”
Taste requires originality. It invokes an aspirational authenticity. Writer George Saunders calls this “achieving the iconic space,” and it’s what he’
Ideas for practice and teaching
When presencing or resting in the nature of mind, mental events are said toeffortlessly “self-liberate” and spontaneously dissolve on their own, no lo
Again, Dzogchen posits that the state beyond suffering is not something apart from us to be attained, but rather the enduring condition of our own bei
nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know…nothing ever really attacks us except our own confusion. perhaps there is no solid
“... This aliveness is always here. We don’t have to work to get it. It is ever-present. Seeking enlightenment is a form of postponement, postponing w
And I don’t think this situation resolves itself as you grow older. In fact, more people just die. Loss becomes the primary condition of living. That
We suffer as human beings, but out of that can come enormous joys, and genuine happiness, too. It can run in tandem with this ordinary sense of suffer
You’re right that profound grief quickly pushes you away from both certitude and indifference, which are unproductive feelings—That’s right. Certitude
Yet the fundamental loss remains—it doesn’t just dissipate—and, in a strange way, I think it can become a magnet for other losses. We come to see we a
"I want more for you than from you."
You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” ~ Zig Ziglar.
“We are only leading when we are centered on making others better.”
To say it outright, even the most talented person in the world won’t do well here if they don’t have an interest in helping other people grow and succ
I think “And what else?” is the best coaching question in the world. It does two things: It extends the period of curiosity, and it tames your advice
Around 2019, my focus shifted from asking “who’s fucking with me?” to asking “how do I continue to fuck with myself?” Once you finally break away from
The questions in every intimate relationship and close friendship are the same: Can you see this person clearly? Will you let them see you clearly? Ar
What if you gave yourself the gift of inner acceptance? What would it open up for you?
The information in your news feeds is curated for interest or surprise. As such, the news is not a record of the ordinary but the extraordinary—a refl
What’s amazing is how chronological feeds — essentially accidental experiments of digital architecture — have rewired our brains. In the feed, everyth
Creative work is hard. And we constantly beat ourselves up for not producing high quantities of high-quality stuff. It’s easy to forget that we’re try
The thing that no one ever tells you about your calling is that it’s boring. Oh, everything is interesting if you’re interested… shut up. Yes, it will
The legendary designer Paula Scher said, “I still [a little over 5 decades into her career] make things that are pretty awful. It’s part of the proces
