Puja Nandi

Sometimes the love doesn’t hit like a tidal wave.

Sometimes it grows - quietly, stubbornly - like a wildflower through concrete.

And that’s motherhood too.

I was not weak. I was just mothering in a world that expects me to raise a baby like I don’t have a job, and work like I don’t have a baby.

If someone tells you motherhood is pure bliss and they love every single minute of it - trust me, they’re either skipping chapters or only choosing to frame the sunshine, never the shadows.

In these left-leaning female spaces I have observed intense social-policing from the NGG on any type of remotely critical opinion that is not sugar-coated in some bizarre “<333 aw love ya girlie” saccharine vanilla glaze. They will scold you for being rude, tell you to mind your business, and dismiss your opinions as bigoted and problematic.

At best, choice feminism is misguided and ineffective. At worst, it is a Potemkin village, a clever trick that uses the appearance of “progress” to camouflage its true, more sinister purpose: preserving the consumerist status quo.

But with time, its shortcomings have become abundantly clear. Choice feminism fails because it prioritizes personal consumer acts over all others by assuming all choices are made with equal freedom and awareness. It also discounts (if not entirely disregards) how heavily our choices are influenced by well-established and inherently exploitative... See more

Since women were routinely deprived of autonomy for virtually all of civilized human history, the popularity of ultra-positive “choice feminism”—the belief that any choice a woman makes is inherently empowering—is not surprising.

This is not random. It is a system designed to keep women trapped in an eternal hamster wheel of low self-worth and misery; to starve them spiritually while keeping them fat and fed on a diet of beauty gunk, Shein junk, PopSlop, and TikTok.