Mounica Veggalam
@mounica_v8
Life and leadership coach. Deeply curious about causing self-transformation for joyful accomplishment.
Mounica Veggalam
mounicaveggalam.substack.com
Differentiation occurs by maintaining yourself in the presence of important persons, not by getting away from them. The difference between running away and walking away after you’re “unhooked” is a critical distinction.
(Passionate Marriage pg 64)
Our role as coaches is to help our clients create B-prime—something that is better than they could imagine for themselves when they began to work with us.
Robert Ellis • Coaching From Essence: Create a Thriving Practice Doing Powerful Work With Clients You Love
The intimacy in a self-transforming marriage
The image of an adult relationship that is genuinely intimate- sex-ually, but in every other respect as well-brings to light again the theme of reciprocity first seen in the interpersonal balance. Traveling once more over familiar psychological terrain, the evolution of mean-ing, in the interindividual ba
... See moreDifferentiation is the ability to maintain your sense of self when you are emotionally and/or physically close to others— especially as they become increasingly important to you.
Differentiation permits you to maintain your own course when lovers, friends, and family pressure you to agree and con-form. Well-differentiated people can agree without fe
... See moreMaking sense of experience seems to be one of the
fundamental drives in human nature. This need for meaning is irrepressible and ongoing. Its ranges from the earliest beginnings of rudimentary distinctions that the baby starts to make even in utero up to the most elaborate explanations of why my spiritual path and my guru is superior to other ways... See more
Passionate Marriage (Pg 57)
The culture which holds, recognizes, and remembers the institutional balance is the culture of ideology. It takes its most obvious form in the domain of work but can (and usually does) operate just as powerfully in the construction of loving relations which get organized around the exercises and preservation of one or both parties' self-contained i
... See morehow can my creative superpowers as an artist be channeled into giving extraordinary value and service to others, while sharing my ethos & philosophy along the way?