Relationships

It seems to me that egos emerge in order to take care of our needs in contexts where we don’t trust the strategy of surrendering to the We. The paradox is that the presence of ego is often one of the main things in the way of the We being able to take care of our needs.

The We is responsible One frame that I’ve found really helpful for creating continuity between I and We is this: I am responsible for taking care of myself (my needs, desires, etc). We are responsible for taking care of my needs, desires etc. But you are not. You might want to help, you might be able to help… or not. But the We always wants ... See more

You don't build relationships talking about what you think. You build relationships by speaking yourself, and listening self; listening for the self there, not listening for the story there. If you listen for self, people will speak their selves. If you listen for crap, people will tell you their crap. If you listen for self, people will tell you t

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