Lari
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Lari
I think the scariest thing about being alive is realizing that you don’t live in people’s lives the way you think you do. You exist to them in the form of a few memories, a handful of impressions, maybe a story they tell about you to someone else, but never the whole of you. Never the real, loud, overthinking, self-editing, too-much, too-soft,... See more
You think your intention is obvious. You think your silences are eloquent. You think your love is visible. But people aren’t watching that closely. They fill in the gaps with their own stories. They decide what your laugh means. They decide what your quietness means. They take something you did on a tired day and turn it into your defining trait. And you don’t get to edit it. You don’t get to defend the nuance. You just get to live with the version of you that lives in their head and pretend it doesn’t eat at you.
to just show up for himself. It means to be the thing that you need in that moment. To be the friend that you need.
birthday bingo: make a list of tiny joys that fill your cup. buy flowers, text someone you love, take a photo, eat something sweet. tick them off as the day unfolds, like prizes you forgot you’d already won.
There’s a sense of entitlement to constant communication. Even when you can’t talk, the expectation is that you voice it. And if you don’t, what does that mean? That you don’t care? That you don’t love them enough?
Literature — contains the finest passages I come across (and my thoughts these passages generate), culled from classic novels, autobiographies, poems, and other literary forms.
Journaling, Note-Taking, Digital Gardening
Journaling, Note-Taking, Digital Gardening
but I truly don’t believe you can experience the full depth of certain moments when they’re filtered through the presence of another person. These moments—these experiences—are what shape your life.
we forget that we have the power to become the very person we long for.
Think about it.
What kind of person do you feel safe with?
Who makes you feel at home in your skin?
Whose presence feels like a deep exhale, not because they're perfect, but because they’re kind, because they listen, because they don’t make you feel small for feeling too much?
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Think about it.
What kind of person do you feel safe with?
Who makes you feel at home in your skin?
Whose presence feels like a deep exhale, not because they're perfect, but because they’re kind, because they listen, because they don’t make you feel small for feeling too much?
Becom... See more
Writing forces clarity.
Fantasy-work is your responsibility. If you don’t advocate for your own fantasy you will be living inside someone else’s.