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I think the scariest thing about being alive is realizing that you don’t live in people’s lives the way you think you do. You exist to them in the form of a few memories, a handful of impressions, maybe a story they tell about you to someone else, but never the whole of you. Never the real, loud, overthinking, self-editing, too-much, too-soft, tryi... See more
You think your intention is obvious. You think your silences are eloquent. You think your love is visible. But people aren’t watching that closely. They fill in the gaps with their own stories. They decide what your laugh means. They decide what your quietness means. They take something you did on a tired day and turn it into your defining trait. And you don’t get to edit it. You don’t get to defend the nuance. You just get to live with the version of you that lives in their head and pretend it doesn’t eat at you.
There’s a sense of entitlement to constant communication. Even when you can’t talk, the expectation is that you voice it. And if you don’t, what does that mean? That you don’t care? That you don’t love them enough?
“If you never bleed, you’re never gonna grow,’ is what Taylor Swift sings in her song the 1. Why would anyone want to remain stagnant their whole lives? Where’s the fun, the adventure, the memories? Making that move to a new city might seem impossible, but once you do it, you’ll feel like a new person.
Go buy trinkets to put up on your desk, stick some charms on your bag, or keep yapping about an artist you like. Most people will find it annoying, but it makes you, you. All of your interests make up you.
we forget that we have the power to become the very person we long for.
Think about it.
What kind of person do you feel safe with?
Who makes you feel at home in your skin?
Whose presence feels like a deep exhale, not because they're perfect, but because they’re kind, because they listen, because they don’t make you feel small for feeling too much?
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Think about it.
What kind of person do you feel safe with?
Who makes you feel at home in your skin?
Whose presence feels like a deep exhale, not because they're perfect, but because they’re kind, because they listen, because they don’t make you feel small for feeling too much?
Becom... See more
And yet, most of us grew up believing that love should be easy. That it should feel effortless if it’s right.
what we were never told was that loving someone deeply is a series of choices made over and over again, not just when it’s easy, but especially when it’s not
The truth is, life isn’t inherently magical, it’s what we make of it.
Small talk is the bridge for connection.
Silence is for close friends what small talk is for people you're still discovering. It’s a way to enjoy each other's presence.
Silence is for close friends what small talk is for people you're still discovering. It’s a way to enjoy each other's presence.
What do you say when people ask you: "Hey, how was your weekend?"
Let me guess... "Good, just chilling", "Oh, nothing special, you know, cleaning, Netflix..."?
That was me too.
The only thing I never realized until I started diving into my research of how to talk to people was that I complained about them not offering me deep answers, but I wasn't doing a better job at it either.
If you want something from others, why not start by offering it yourself?
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and you asked me "hey, how are you doing?"
The past me would say: "I'm good, and you?"
The current me would say: "I'm good, I'm enjoying the quiet day today because yesterday I had such a social day. And I'm not really used to it. I went to the opening of the new collective studio in the morning... have you heard about it? It's so nice, I loved the brands there, I think they align so well with each other, the danger is that if you're a client of one brand, you'll definitely want to buy from the other brands too! So cute."
Do you see what I did? I didn't necessarily talk about myself, and you didn't ask about what I did yesterday, but I shared enough material for you to follow up on what's interesting for you, and eventually we discover a common ground that can lead us into more interesting and personal topics.
