Daniel Wentsch

The “structural gap-mapper” approach:

Switch from team “I will one day write something good” to team “I have no choice but to write a piece of shit” and then take off your “bad writer” hat and replace it with a “petty critic” hat and go to town on that poor hack’s draft and that’s your second draft. Fifteen drafts later, or whenever someone paying you starts yelling at you, who knows,

Third, and this is harder, you have to learn to metabolize feedback differently. When reality contradicts your model, it’s not a failure signal; it’s data. Neutral, immutable data. That's the whole point of making models in the first place, to test them against the world and update them. But you can only get that data by acting. The model serves

When you ask people about their life’s meaning and purpose, parents say that their lives have more meaning than those of nonparents. A study by the social psychologist Roy Baumeister and his colleagues found that the more time people spent taking care of children, the more meaningful they said their life was—even though they reported that their

“I am convinced that life is 10% what happens and 90% how I react to it.”

Kalte Duschen haben noch weitere Vorteile: In einer Studie ließen Forschende 3018 Probanden über drei Monate hinweg täglich zuerst warm und dann abschließend 30, 60 oder 90 Sekunden kalt duschen. Die Tage, an denen sie sich krankmeldeten, sanken um 30 Prozent, Lebensqualität, Produktivität nahmen zu.

A deep question asks about someone’s values, beliefs, judgments, or experiences—rather than just facts. Don’t ask “Where do you work?” Instead, draw out feelings or experiences: “What’s the best part of your job?” (One 2021 study found a simple approach to generating deep questions: Before speaking, imagine you’re talking to a close friend. What