Kelli
@kellii
Am I growing a library or hoarding trash?
Kelli
Building the kind of life i want
Chasing scale seems to be a kind of early life affliction. The more you chase it, the bigger the thing you chase gets. Perhaps it’s a natural desire to see how important we can be or at least how important our creations can be to the world (and hence how important we can be by proxy …). A desire to take on a seemingly insurmountable challenge, perhaps a noble one (though not always), and see if we can conquer it.
Where do dreams go when you stop chasing them?
They hang just above your head on invisible strings. If you’ve put in the work, they’ll stick around until they hit you square in the face. Funny, isn’t it? How we repel the things we want too much. When we surrender to the possibility of losing the object of desire, opportunity wafts them in without... See more
They hang just above your head on invisible strings. If you’ve put in the work, they’ll stick around until they hit you square in the face. Funny, isn’t it? How we repel the things we want too much. When we surrender to the possibility of losing the object of desire, opportunity wafts them in without... See more
Happy has a boundless quality: unpredictable, even when it is at a low level. There is an openness, allowing another person to surprise and delight them. The easiest way to say this: there is no script for happy. It tumbles out of the body.
you can see that the truly charming people don’t draw you in by dazzling or blinding you with their looks, money, achievement — they do it by stripping away your pressure to perform, laying a blanket of ease with your humanity with humor, honesty, or untethered simplicity
What I’m in search of is maybe hard to explain in a neat sentence, but, maybe, it’s some sense of resonance. You know when you’re reading and you’re like “Oh, this person is saying this thing I’ve been thinking or feeling forever, but didn’t know how to express in words?” That’s a beautiful feeling when you can see yourself more clearly through... See more
On the value of being a beginner
“Emotional reactivity disguised as pseudo-intellectualism is a powerful drug, but personalism is its antidote.”
It’s narcissism, sure. But also curiosity. The right person makes you want to know yourself better. And then, paradoxically, forget yourself entirel
Late bloomers don’t often know what they’re preparing for. They work blindly towards their goals. Their career paths are meandering, exploratory, restricted, or full of failure. They learn in this phase, developing the skills and knowledge they will use later, but they don’t always have an end point in mind.