Julian Paul
@julian
Rational optimist building internet things.
Julian Paul
julianpaul.me
The most important ingredient for giving effective feedback is care for the other person.
Your intent must to be genuinely help the other person. You must see and validate them, and thus want what’s best for them. If you go into giving feedback with a kind of I mantra in your head—I want to sound smart, I want them to like me, I give them a piece of... See more
Your intent must to be genuinely help the other person. You must see and validate them, and thus want what’s best for them. If you go into giving feedback with a kind of I mantra in your head—I want to sound smart, I want them to like me, I give them a piece of... See more
Everyone wants the summary. But the summary is what's left after someone else decided what matters. Their priorities aren't yours. Their filters aren't yours. When you operate on summaries, you're thinking with someone else's brain.
And when I practice letting go of how I think things are supposed to look and instead cultivate a trust in the unfolding that is taking place, often in unseen ways, the Here-ness of challenge or pain or depression or grief or (anything) softens even 5%, and that 5% adds up fast when I don’t assume it’s nothing.
To move toward fully living
It’s pretty funny when you see how, being comfortable with being disliked, actually makes you even more likeable. It’s one of the many ways in which life can be really unfair.
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“To make art, you have to have just as much doubt as you do confidence.”
David Pennington • Chuck Arnoldi | Unintentional Artistry: A Surprising Journey
- Anxiety of incompetence : my skills are devalued and i have to learn new ones
- Anxiety of irrelevance : people might not relate to, value, or think about me
- Anxiety of uncertainty : I don’t know what the future holds and it feels fickle
Anu • Agency in the Age of AI
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X, thanks so much for reaching out and apologies for my delayed response. I have been trying to do too much as of late, which makes it hard to keep up with correspondence. I also have to admit I am not good at saying no, because I enjoy meeting people and discussing new ideas. Unfortunately...
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