Jill Kammann

You hold them because you want to, not because you’re afraid of what happens if you let go.

Because if you don’t meet your own soul before you meet another person’s, you’ll build a home in theirs and forget you ever had your own. You’ll confuse being wanted with being known . And that, more than loneliness, is the thing that will hollow you out.

Ritual prevents the ordinary from dissolving into invisibility. If you light a candle at dinner, the meal becomes an event. If you walk at the same time each day, it becomes more than exercise. Anthropologists will tell you that rituals function as technologies of attention: certain ordinary acts aren’t trivial, they’re the architecture of meaning.

overthinking has a way of tricking you into believing you’re making progress when really, you’re just rehearsing anxiety until it feels like fact.

We can be anything, but choosing one thing means grieving the thousands we didn’t.

Gardening is not outcome-oriented. A successful harvest is not the end of a gardener's existence, but only a phase of it. As any gardener knows, the vitality of a garden does not end with a harvest. It simply takes another form. Gardens do not "die" in the winter but quietly prepare for another season